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Sunday, October 2, 2011

Simple living

I was sitting in my bed tonight, looking around my tiny apartment, thinking to myself, why would I ever need to live in anything bigger than this?  Now, for those of you who knew me before I moved to Korea, you know that I lived here!  Yes, this was my house, all 2267 square feet of it!  Just me and a roomate!  And all I could think of was how the next house I bought should be even bigger!

Where I once had a front yard and a quiet street, I now have a busy alley with a restaurant below me, shady motels across from me, massage parlors down the street, and a karaeokee bar next door! Where I once had a 2 car garage with 2 cars, I now share a scooter with Aaron.  Where I once had 18 windows, I now have 2.  And believe it or not, I actually prefer it!  I love hearing people walking up and down my street all day and night, and the convenience of walking 30 seconds to the little corner mart when I've just noticed I'm out of milk in the mornings!  Having the smell of delicious Korean BBQ below me isn't all that bad either!

This was once my laundry room where I had more cabinets to store hoard stuff I didn't need!  I had a washer, dryer and even a stinkin' folding counter, as if the floor or bed weren't sufficient enough to do one's folding.  Don't get me wrong, it was convenient!

My old house had 3 bathrooms all with their own bathtubs and showers, and a total of 12 cabinets and 4 drawers. Yes, that equated to 1 more bathroom and shower than residents in the home and MORE cabinets filled with things I bought and thought I would use one day! 

Now, this is my 1 bathroom AND laundry room combination!  As you can see, I shower in the middle of my bathroom, the little white wall shelf is my only bathroom storage, and my washing machine and drying RACK are hidden, nicely behind that shower curtain.  And this was taken with a special lens to get everything in.  It's about a 4ft x 8ft bathroom (32 square feet).  It's not this big in real life... but it's sufficient and I like it!

I once had a kitchen with 21 cabinets and 7 drawers FILLED with cooking utensils that I used once a year, if that (but they were cute, so I bought them!), more flower vases then I ever needed (just incase I hosted a baby or wedding shower), more plates, bowls and silverware than I could ever use at one dinner party, and over 20 fancy glasses of different sorts (I apparently thought I would have that many people over for drinks one day... which did happen, but only twice)! I had enough pots and pans to run a small restaurant, and more baking pans and tins than I could ever need! I had a full size oven, a big microwave, a 4 burner stove, a huge fridge with an ice maker and filtered water coming out the door, a toaster, garbarge disposal, dishwasher, china cabinet for more unneeded fancy plates and dinnerware, and a huge table for 8!

Now I have 10 cabinets, 1 drawer, 1 toaster oven, a portable 1 burner stove, a table for 2, and a mini fridge!   And yes, that's an armoire filled with my clothes, in the kitchen... because you have to be creative when you're living in a box! 

This was once my bedroom / haven! 

... my family room!

...1 of 2 guest bedrooms (which was actually only used maybe 3 times) but was fully furnished...
you know, just in case!

... my office, filled to the brim with books to one day be read, and overflowing with craft supplies in all of the cabinets below!

... and a game room!  You know, for when I would host ALL those potential baby or wedding showers and we wanted to play a game of pool! haha (Which, instead ended up being 1 huge Christmas party, 1 surprise birthday party for a good friend, a Thanksgiving, and a weekend with 15 friends!) ...  Still, though, it was a room in my house, and I felt it should be furnished, so I spent my money on a pool table, armoire with ANOTHER TV, a game table, and a wine fridge... to be used 3 times!

NOW, this is my bedroom, family room, guest bedroom, office, and gameroom, all rolled into one 15ft x 12ft foot space! Yep, that's 180 square feet folks!  When my sister came to stay with me, we shared my bed.  When Jess and Carlos come, they sleep on my rug and use my decorative pillows and small blanket!   Since I don't have a couch, friends usually lounge on my bed, or on the floor, my office is now that little table on the bottom right of the picture where I have a tiny two drawer box for "junk" and a holder for files!  All those craft supplies I once had have been condensed into one shoe sized box that sits on my washing machine.  When I absolutely need a supply, I buy it!  No more of that "Oh that's cute, and it's on sale.  Maybe I'll use it one day."  You just can't do that when you live in a small space... and games are played on the rug.  It may not be pool, but what's wrong with dominoes, card games and dice games?! 
They're just as fun in my opinion!

My heater is built into my flooring (so awesome!) and it only takes 1 tiny air conditioning wall unit to cool of my entire place!  My electric bills in peak season are about $35 a month!

It's not just the low utility prices though that have made me fall in love with this simple style of living!  It's the fact that I can spend my money on travel, dinners out, and fun things that I want to... and then am able to save all the rest!  No huge mortgage... No high water bill for watering the front and backyard... No need to purchase hoards of framed art, fancy furnitue, flat screen TV's, or storage boxes for all the holiday decor that I once loved to have, but now am fine living without!  Living this way has cut down on my anxiety, my obsession with decorating and creating a perfect home, and has allowed me so much extra time!  Afterall, do you know how long it takes to clean a 250 sq foot apartment?!  I'll tell you.  About an hour, tops! 

I'd like to think that this has been a forever change in my views of house and home, but I'm afraid when I come back to the US I'll fall back into the American dream, and never feel content enough in the home I live.  I hope that when, and, if that day comes, I'll look back on this blog entry and remember how happy I was and content with having so little.  Here's hoping.

Thursday, September 29, 2011

Tips for understanding foreigners!

Aaron has been asked to give private English lessons to a teacher at his school who will be moving to Atlanta, GA, for her husbands job.  I was looking through some documents that I made when I was teaching English to the parents and teachers at my last school and came across this one!  I had made it, because each of these things had happened to be NUMEROUS TIMES and it was my sly way of teaching them not to say or do this stuff!   This is a little glimpse into everyday life as a foreigner in Korea! :)
(The red font is just for you!)

Tips for UNDERSTANDING foreigners:
1.     Don't comment on their negative personal appearances. 
Don’t ever say:
“You look tired.”
“You look a little bit big (or fat) today.” 
“You look sick.”
“What is that on your face? (If you have a blemish)”  
(arm, hand, leg, foot are okay)
Much older men saying to younger women: “You look sexy today.”
 *** Yes, at some point, they had said each of these things to me!  They had no idea that in American culture, it's really rude."

                     Nice things to say:
                        “You have a beautiful smile.”
                        “ I like your ______ (item of clothing)”
                        “ You look really nice today!”
*** You'd think I wouldn't have to teach this, but every culture is different!

*** Even when you think you're being kind, what is acceptable in Korea may be different than what the foreigner is used to and you may receive a bad response from them. 
              
2.     Try to use, “You should” instead of commanding them to do something when they have a choice.
Example:
     “Go pour the Principal some soju.” (A LITTLE BIT RUDE)
“You should pour the Principal some soju.”   (GOOD!)

     “You have to wear stockings in the winter.”  (BAD)
“You should wear stockings in the winter.”   (GOOD)
    
3.     Always say “please” and “Thank you” 
Example: 
“Open the door.” (VERY RUDE)
“Could you open the door, please?” (GOOD)

“Give me the pen.” (VERY RUDE)
“Can you pass me the pen, please?”

*** I read a story about a Korean co-teacher debating whether or not to say “please” to his younger foreign co-teacher.  In the end, he decided he did not need to say “please” because he was older.  In America, we say please all the time, regardless of age difference.  You are considered very rude if you do not say please and thank you.

4.     In America it’s considered really impolite to push people in a crowded place, bump into someone without saying “sorry,” cut in a line ahead of someone, spit inside a building, chew with your mouth open, slurp soup, and yell into your cell phone

 *** Oh man... I remember teaching this part (above) and them saying, "Oh really?!" and being super surprised that these things were rude! 


5.     Never respond to a question by saying, “It is possible.” It does not mean the opposite of impossible!  “It is possible” means “probably.”
                                            A.             Example:
A: Can you come over for dinner tomorrow night?
B: It is possible. (NO!!!)
B: Probably, but I’m not sure. I’ll look at my calendar and let 
    you know.

                        A: Can you give me a ride home today after school?
                        B: It is possible. (NO!!!)
                        B: Yes, of course!

6.     Smile for pictures with foreigners!  Not smiling in a picture in America means that you are bored, not having fun, or mad at someone in the pictures! 

*** I had SO MANY pictures of my co-workers not smiling!  This was another sly way of teaching them to smile!
 
7.     Never put your hands over your face and giggle if you’re embarrassed to talk to a foreigner!  BE CONFIDENT!
If you don’t understand something a foreigner says, say “I’m sorry. Can you repeat that?” or “I’m sorry, I don’t understand.”

 ***Most young Korean girls between the age of 12 - 25 put their hands over their faces and giggle like this!  They're extremely shy, and think it's really cute to do that!  Being cute is basically the equivalent of being hott in America!  Every girl wants to be called "cute"!

8.     The X symbol you make with your arms when you're saying "No" or "I don't have any", is VERY RUDE to a foreigner who doesn’t know what it means! 

9.     In America, it is okay to show your shoulders and cleavage at work, but if you wear a skirt, or dress, above your knees, it’s considered too sexy.  
*** I am currently wearing a dress that is 6 inches above my knees, and it's TOTALLY fine, but since it has a v-neck, I'm wearing a tank top underneath!  My co-workers said they love my outfit today!  Go figure!

10. Older people are not given special treatment in America. 
* There are no special places on buses or subways for them to sit.
* Families rarely take in a sick grandparent. They usually move them into a “home” for old people and they stay there until they die.
* Older people are usually considered a nuisance in American society.

 *** We definitely have something to learn from Koreans here!  The elderly are regarded as really important, wise and the matriarch of the family! 

11. If you are 21 years old (or older) and are still living at home with your parents, you are considered a loser.
* People assume you are irresponsible and play video games
all day! 
*** Koreans live at home until they get married!  I currently have a 40 year old co-worker who STILL lives at home! 
  
12. Sixteen (16) is the legal driving age in America.
* If you are 18, without a driver’s license, you are considered to be lazy or irresponsible.
* High School parking lots are usually filled with cars, owned by Juniors and Seniors. 
*** My 35 year old female co-worker JUST got her license last week!  It was a huge deal, as most Koreans don't drive, but rather take public transportation!

           13. You don’t have to pay for grocery bags or carts at the supermarket in America!
*** Want a grocery bag or cart in Korea, you're gonna have to pay for it! LOL!

Hope you enjoyed getting a glimpse into my life in Korea and the funny cultural differences that I experience on a daily basis! 

Travel Agent!

It's times like this that all I want to do is
cry out for a travel agent to come rescue me from the madness 
of trying to figure out the best price AND the best schedule to fly from South Korea to 3 different states, in the course of 17 days!  I usually love and live for schematics, statistics, and scheduling things, but airline ticket prices change soooo darn frequently (with seemingly no particular rhyme or reason), and 30+ hours of trying to figure the whole system out is ENOUGH for this girl!  If I see another Orbitz, Expedia, Travelocity, CheapOAir, Kayak, USAirways, Delta, AirBusan, Air China, or American Airlines website again, it'll be TOO SOON
 
Sigh.... $1871.93 later (ouch!), ALL of my flights have been booked.
(All 8 of them!  Eeekkk)
I'm coming home!
 
Leaving Pusan, S.K. Dec 23
North Carolina (Dec 23 - Dec 27)
Arizona (Dec 28 - Dec 31)
Califoria (Dec 31 - Jan 7)
Arriving back in Pusan, S.K. Jan 8

Monday, September 26, 2011

Stella and her guy!

Last night, my first co-teacher, Stella (이은희) and I met in Seomyeon for some shopping and girl time... It had been a while since I'd seen her, so we had a LOT of catching up to do! :)
 A couple hours later, we met up with her new boyfriend, 퍙철, for some delicious galbi on the bone, which I had never tried before!  For the record, it's FANTASTIC!  Yumm!

Introducing Stella's new man!  He was so nice, and absolutely adores her, which made me really happy!  They met at an English conversation gathering, for Koreans, about 3 months ago and have been together ever since! 

I wish Aaron would have been there, so it could have been a double date, but I didn't know her guy was coming until he showed up!  Next time, I'm going to have them over to my place for some pizza and double date action!  I've definitely been blessed with great friends since coming to Korea!  Stella is no exception!

Sunday hike to Seokbulsa

Seokbulsa Temple (석불사) “Stone Buddhist Temple”, is rated #1 of 68 things to see in Busan, and #27 of 6,196 sights to see in Asia, according to Lonely Planet!  So, when I woke up Sunday morning and the weather was perfect for a hike, I asked Aaron to come along ...and off we went!

Now, as a side note, for anyone wanting to go here, take the subway to Mandeok station (line 3) and take the # 4 exit.  Then immediately hail a taxi!  Just say "Seokbulsa - ooEyay"  This basically means, please take me up the hill to Seokbulsa!  $4.00 later, we had arrived, and bypassed the almost 2 hour hike up the mountain!  Now that's what I call a successful shortcut (or lazyness, but whatever!)! 

We hiked a total of about 2 minutes to get to the entrance of the temple... 

...which was all locked up!   Apparently this was the original main gate, but has been off limits now for years...

So, we continued up the hill to this intricately painted archway, which serves as the new entrance to the temple complex! 
When we entered the temple grounds, we found that the temple is indeed made of stone. Not that we ever really doubted.  There are two stone buildings at the entrance and a beautiful 3-story stone pagoda in front of the main building.

Once we passed through the center of the two buildings above, we were greeted with an awe inspiring work of Buddhist art. There are several images carved along the stone walls on either side. 



The bell tower, where monks come to bang the drum and awake the gods...

From the bell tower, you can see all the way to the Gwangan Bridge! 
And that's even on a somewhat hazzy day like today!
A set of stone stairs leads up to the left of the main stone carving, to a Sanshin Alter (산신단), a place for worshiping the mountain spirit. I don't know how Buddhists keep track of all of their gods and spirits! Seems like there are thousands!

There two pairs of shoes were waiting patiently outside of the Sanshin alter, while their owners bowed inside.

Looking down from the Sanshin Alter (which is also the tallest point of the temple grounds) gives you another vantage point for admiring the immense carvings and the surrounding landscape.

Aaron and I sat up here, for a while, playing Farkle (aka: 10,000) and enjoying our snacks that we had brought along!
If you look carefully, you can find some of these miniature buddha statues laying around temples in Korea.  This one happened to have some money laying beside it (the equivalent of less than a penny!)

This buddha statues and the candles that accompanied it were tucked back in a little cave in the mountainside...

I can't imagine carving all of these!  They're amazing!



Inside the main temple building are hundreds of these bronze buddhas, lined up in rows.  Koreans came in and out, all afternoon, bowing to these statues.

This alter was set up in the smaller temple building.  I have no idea what the symbolism is of this painting or the candles.  Wish I had a little history lesson before going, but there's really not all that much online about this temple!


We thought about staying for the sunset, but it was getting really cold, so we headed back down the mountain, stopping to enjoy the wildflowers along the way...

... and the graveyard too.  Creepy?  Yes, a bit!

I found this little Jeju god sitting in the graveyard, all by his lonesome.

On our hike down, we spotted an exercise park, which are quite common on mountains in Korea!  We had a fun time playing on all the weird equipment!

Tah dah!  Yes, this thing actually turns you upside down and you hang from it...
and no, I didn't figure out the apparent benefits of hanging upside down on it!

Who wants to go skiing?!

Now, this thing was GENIUS!  You can lay your cell phone on a dock of sorts, and the friction from the rubber bands against the metal will actually CHARGE YOUR CELL PHONE as you work out!

We left the exercise park and continued on our way, basking in the gorgeous sunset!

We lucked out and were able to catch a taxi down the rest of the mountain!  About an hour later, Aaron and I met our friend Keely and her boyfriend (who was visiting from the US), in Seomyeon, for a little dinner date!  It was the perfect ending to a fabulous outdoorsy Sunday!